In Pursuit of Happiness – Part-I


Finally the wait was over. After a couple of misses, I was able to join the much awaited Advance Meditation Course by Rishi Vidyadharji at Vasad Ashram and it was worth all the wait. Around 115 fortunate souls did the course along with me. For me, those seven days were like complete overhauling on Physical, Mental & Spiritual level. During the last couple of days of the course, I was smiling without any apparent reason. Bliss was in the air! I was feeling much lighter, younger and happier; as if, I had offloaded a huge unwanted burden from my shoulders.

I have no words for Rishi Vidyadharji.  He is simply amazing. Rishiji displays a unique blend of wit with wisdom, dedication with dispassion, knowledge with lightness and physical fitness defying age.

Here I am attempting to share some of the precious knowledge pearls shared by Rishiji. I wish to clarify at the onset that, I am not sharing the exact words of Rishiji. I am trying to share Rishiji’s wisdom through my limited power of perception and expression. It is a challenging task to express something which is beyond words. Some places analogies have been used to convey the truth but analogies have their own limitations. They can convey only certain aspects of truth and not the entire truth. I hope that whatever I am sharing here can at least serve the purpose of giving some pointers towards the reality.

Give highest priority to ‘Swadhrama’

I was a bit shocked when Rishiji told that “Don’t try to make anyone happy. Your first and foremost duty is to be happy yourself. That is your ‘Swadharma’. Give highest priority to your Swadharma.

I thought, “Is he teaching us to be selfish?”

But after a bit of introspection and little explanation by Rishiji, I realized that whatever he was telling was an irrefutable fact. I don’t even have control over my own mind. How can I have control over others mind? Isn’t it foolish to take responsibility of someone else’s state of mind?

Most of the times, I don’t even take responsibility for my own state of mind. I think that I am happy or sad because of some person, situation or place. I fail to realize that my own mental conditioning and attitude is responsible for the way I respond to outside situation. No person, situation or place can make me happy or sad. If my mind is bitter, I can’t find joy anywhere in the world. If my mind is sweet, I can find joy everywhere. My own internal mental environment is responsible for the way in which I act or react to outside influences. I realized that I am responsible for the state of my own mind and no one else.

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It is my duty to see that people near me are comfortable, but I can’t make them happy. If I think that I can make someone happy, it is an illusion. At the most, I can show someone the way to happiness. It is up to them to find their happiness. Usually we fall in this trap of trying to make others happy and in the process lose our own happiness and also fail miserably in our so called noble mission of making others happy.

Rishiji gave an apt example of safety instructions which the Air Hostess gives regarding wearing the Oxygen Mask during emergency. First one should wear his/her own Oxygen Mask and then help others to wear their Oxygen Mask. Same is the case with happiness.

Happiness is contagious. The company of a happy person makes others happy. So just be happy! Be happy, because it is our ‘Swadharma’.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar ji has given a beautiful definition of ‘Swadharma’. He says, “Any action that uplifts us is our Swadharma…..Growth comes when we follow our Swadharma.”

In the Bhagavad Geeta (3.35), Sri Krihna tells that: ‘Swadharme nidhanam shreyah paradharmo bhayaavahah’ – It is better to die following one’s own ‘Swadharama ‘ than to follow ‘Paradharma’. The path of ‘Paradharma’ is full of unknown dangers.  

To be happy in true sense, the first and foremost thing to do is to take responsibility of our own mind. But this is easier said than done. Taking responsibility of our own mind requires extraordinary level of awareness and self-effort.  Only with regular Sadhana, Seva & Satsang can one get that heightened level of awareness and energy which can help us to become a true master of our own mind.

What is Happiness?

‘Viveka’ is knowing what is happiness (Sukh) and what is un-happiness (Dukh).

Rishiji beautifully explained the mechanics of happiness. He explained that, “Happiness (Sukh) is moving towards the ‘Self’ or uniting with your ‘Self’ and un-happiness (Dukh) is going away from the ‘Self’”. 

‘Yoga’ is a scientific way propounded by our ancient sages to unite with our true nature or the ‘Self’.

The word ‘Bhoga’ implies enjoyment derived through sensory pleasures. 

You can reach the state of happiness either through ‘Yoga’ or through ‘Bhoga’.

Happiness through ‘Bhoga’ will physically & mentally exhaust you in due course of time whereas happiness through ‘Yoga’ will rejuvenate and energize you.

Happiness through ‘Bhoga’ is limited by the power of senses while happiness through ‘Yoga’ is boundless.

The path of ‘Bhoga’ is the path of short term gain and long term pain whereas the path of ‘Yoga’ is that of short term pain and long term gain.

‘Bhoga’ leads us towards bondage whereas ‘Yoga’ leads us towards freedom.

‘Bhoga’ is seeing happiness in ‘words and forms’ and ‘Yoga’ is seeing it in the ‘formless’.

Seeing happiness in the ‘words and forms’ (‘Nama’ and ‘Rupa’) is an illusion and seeing it in the ‘formless’ is the reality.

Suppose you are a lover of sweets and you are served a delicious ‘Gulab Jamun’. The moment you start savoring the delicious sweet, your whole existence gets effortlessly focused on the sense of taste. Your mind, intellect, memory, ego, everything is almost dissolved in that moment. So you are very near to your true nature or your true ‘Self’ and hence you become happy. Your true ‘Self’ is the real source of love and happiness. As you go near your ‘Self’ naturally you become happy.

However, you may not be aware that this happiness has resulted because of your closeness with the ‘Self’. Usually you attribute your happiness to the ‘Gulab Jamun’ (name & form).  Your memory records that eating ‘Gulab Jamun’ has made you happy. After repeating this experience a couple of times, the impression that ‘Gulab Jamun’ gives happiness gets firmly established in the memory. Next time when you are unhappy, the memory will say, ‘If you eat Gulab Jamun, you will become happy’. Your mind starts craving for the ‘Gulab Jamun’. Now, if you don’t get ‘Gulab Jamun’ you become unhappy. The deep impression in mind that ‘Gulab Jamun’ will make you happy, has now become your bondage.

Here again, not getting the the ‘Gulab Jamun’ is not responsible for your unhappiness. It is your craving for the ‘Gulab Jamun’ which has taken you away from the ‘Self’ and this distance from your ‘Self’ has resulted in your unhappiness.

‘Bhoga’ can give only the glimpse of happiness which is radiating from the source of happiness inside (i.e. our true ‘Self’) but ‘Yoga’ unites us with this very source of happiness.

Now, what is this so called ‘Self’? Why uniting with this ‘Self’ gives us unbounded happiness?

……..To be continued ……………..

Jai Gurudev !

Sanjay Sabnis

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  1. Great knowledge and easy to understand in simple words. Happiness through sensory pleasure is reflection of Self. Great Insight

  2. Hi I just did the Adv silence i very cleraly realized what rishiji has said..when i used to have my favorite dish in kitchen , my mind simply dissolved …the same experience i have in meditation but only for a fraction of a second

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